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How to Find Love

Finding true love

Actually your true love doesn’t exist

Or rather it doesn’t exist out there, waiting to be discovered. There is no destiny of love. It is chance, coincidence or enterprise that brings you together. There could be more than one ‘true love’.

Like other choices you make throughout your life, love can go, or could have gone, in different directions. There are parallel lives in the imagination, spinning out different scenarios.

The art of real as opposed to true love is in the making

At the beginning, there is often a smile, a twinkle, a resemblance, or simply lust at first sight. The rest is exploration, accommodation, building life together, the ties of offspring, the universe of shared space, the accumulation of memories. That is real love. All the rest is fiction.

So how do you go about creating dating opportunities?

It’s amazing how important being happy in yourself is. Anxiety, stress, lack of social confidence or an underlying unhappiness all affect the signals you are giving out.

You can’t change overnight. Associating with happy people helps a lot.  Focus on things that make you happy – a song, a joke, a friendship – you can make a lot of difference to how you come across.  

Then there is the more practical side of the enterprise. Checking out with friends the way you look, putting yourself into situations where you meet people you might get on with.

Matchmakers, introduction agencies, apps and internet dating sites are useful shortcuts. But you also need to get your friends to act as discreet ambassadors.

You could also follow up that mutual sidelong glance with a subtle approach, a prosaic conversation in the lift, on the tube, in an art gallery, in a café. Real love often develops out of banal situations.

Mary Balfour and Husband Sebastian Love Bench

Written by our guest blogger of the week: Emeritus Professor Sebastian Balfour.

NB  Sebastian is our MD Mary Balfour’s husband and they’ll be celebrating 30 years of very happy marriage together on 23rd December.  Neither thought the other was ‘their type’ when they first met, as neighbours, in 1980!  You can read about how their love developed in Mary’s book: Smart Dating: how to find your man, on Amazon. Or get a free copy by phoning us on 020 7224 1001.

If you are ready to meet someone special, contact the friendly award winning matchmakers at Drawing Down the Moon Matchmaking.

As the UK’s Premier matchmaking company, we have been  successfully introducing tens of thousands of interesting people since 1984. 

Contact us now, perhaps we can change your dating life for the better, forever?