Meet our team of top matchmakers

Matchmaker Gillian McCallum Drawing Down the Moon Matchmaking London
Gillian McCallum
CEO

What do you like most about working at Drawing Down the Moon?
The Team! I first heard about Drawing Down the Moon as a teenager, after seeing their adverts in Private Eye. I was thrilled to become the CEO of Drawing Down the Moon in early 2016. It is a huge privilege for me to be a part of this exciting company, and to be so warmly welcomed by DDM’s incredibly friendly team of award winning matchmakers.

What is your favourite matchmaking success story?
A good friend had found it tough to find a partner in London. She chose Drawing Down the Moon through recommendation, and on only her second date met “The One”! Update from there – she is happily married and has moved to the States with her now husband.

What is the one thing you would suggest, as a Matchmaker, to help people find Love?
The fewer limitations you place on the type of person you would like to meet, the higher your chance of success. Be open!

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Mary Balfour
Non Exec Director

“My passion is to help love blossom by helping busy, single professionals find their ultimate soul mate. I’ve been doing this for over 30 years with Drawing Down the Moon, my date coaching and as the author of Smart Dating.

My other passion is education and I worked as the head of an inner city, adult education centre in the 70s and 80s. My brief there was to motivate and support those who’d missed out on educational opportunities and help them to realise their aspirations in life. A lot of what I learned there has been helpful with my work as a matchmaker. So too has my training in life coaching and counselling techniques.

I’ve been lucky in love and happily married for thirty years to my wonderful husband, Sebastian. I hope that I can help others to know the happiness we’ve experienced together.
My mission is simple: to help you find and keep that ultimate loving relationship. I want to leave you feeling amazed and utterly delighted by your experience with Drawing Down the Moon. ‘For more about Mary click here‘”

Bey Ali
Bey Ali
Operations Manager

What do you like most about working at Drawing Down the Moon?
The dating, marriage and engagement success stories! I believe everyone has a soul-mate out there and I am so lucky to work in a team of people who are passionate about helping people to find theirs.

What is your favourite matchmaking success story?
When I watched a video of two of our Client’s making their vows to one other and then being shown a picture of their first child!

What is the one thing you would suggest, as a Matchmaker, to help people find Love?
Go into Matchmaking with an open mind. The person who you think is “your type” may not actually be!

Lizzee-Fearnley
Lizzee Fearnley
Matchmaking Team Leader

What do you like most about working at Drawing Down the Moon?
For many people, finding their perfect match can bring the greatest of happiness. Working at Drawing Down the Moon as a matchmaker allows me to play a key part in helping people create the right opportunities to meet that special someone.

What is your favourite matchmaking success story?
One of the things I always encourage my clients to do is be as open as they can to what their ideal match will look like. One of my favourites was a lady who found her perfect match in a man who was 1 inch shorter than her “ideal height”. She called to tell me that my encouragement to meet him changed her life!

What is the one thing you would suggest, as a Matchmaker, to help people find Love?
My advice to those looking for love is to join a matchmaker! Importantly, focus on building a wide network of interesting friendships and be open to allowing something deeper to blossom. These are the seeds from which the strongest relationships will grow.

James Preece
James Preece
Senior Date Coach

What do you like most about working with Drawing Down the Moon?
I love seeing people making the little changes in their lives which lead to big results. Drawing Down the Moon have always had a strong reputation for attracting high quality singles and it’s wonderful to be part of the client’s journey. No other agency has such a supportive and first class team working together on behalf of their clients. I’m thrilled to be a part of the team and make a difference in peoples lives by coaching the DDM members towards the goal of a long term relationship.

What is your favourite dating coaching success story?
I recently worked with a widowed man who was looking to find love again. The landscape had changed since he had last dated. I was able to teach him exactly what he needed to do. He met a wonderful lady, they are getting married in a few months time and he told me it was all thanks to me!

What is the one thing you would suggest, as a Dating Coach, to help people find Love?
You aren’t going to meet someone sitting at home wondering what’s going wrong. Work out what makes you special and build on it. You have to be the very best version of yourself if you want someone to be truly interested. If you suspect that you might not be as interesting as you could be, change it! Go and do interesting things that improve your life. Not only will you become more eligible, you will be happier too.

Andrea Messent
Andrea Messent
Senior Matchmaker

What do you like most about working at Drawing Down the Moon?
The matchmaking! I never get Sunday blues because I’m always excited to come into work on a Monday and find out how everyones’ dates went over the weekend.

What is your favourite matchmaking success story?
Persuading someone to meet a client who she initially did not want to meet because she thought he was too short-and finding out that they are wonderfully in love and it’s the happiest she’s been in a relationship.

What is the one thing you would suggest, as a Matchmaker, to help people find Love?
Try to take the advice of your matchmaker and be as open minded as possible – the perfect person for you is often someone completely different to your previous relationships.

Andrea was awarded “Best Matchmaker 2017” at the International iDate Dating Awards in Miami

Kirsten Donaldson
Kirsten Donaldson
Senior Matchmaker

What do you like most about working at Drawing Down the Moon?
I feel very lucky to have found something that I love, and I get to work alongside amazing people who feel as privileged as I do to be a matchmaker. Matchmaking is a passion; the extraordinary people we meet on a daily basis, their stories and the outcomes we create together are fascinating and life affirming.

What is your favourite matchmaking success story?
I met with a man who was convinced he would never find love. But the he joined us, met his match and they are now blissfully happy. It just goes to show you never know when it is going to happen or who the perfect match is going to be.

What is the one thing you would suggest, as a Matchmaker, to help people find Love?
So many people make the mistake of going on a first date and expecting the Earth to move. A lasting relationship is based on friendship. If it is a “maybe,” go on that second date!

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Lizzie Frith
Matchmaker

What do you like most about working at Drawing Down the Moon?
That sense of satisfaction when a new client walks in the door and you just know that they would be a perfect match for one of your members.

What is your favourite matchmaking success story?
A member was really unsure about someone we wanted to match her with as she felt he didn’t quite match her criteria. After a little gentle cajoling they did meet. The end of the story? Reader, she married him.

What is the one thing you would suggest, as a Matchmaker, to help people find Love?
Use a matchmaker! Failing that, keep your social circle as wide as possible. You never know, that friend of a friend might just be the one!

Andy Maccabe
Andy MacCabe
Technology

Sometimes people find love with the first person they are matched with and write in to say how we must be matchmaking geniuses. We take that as a huge compliment, but most often, successful matches happen quickly when people are open on the type of person they would like to meet and wholeheartedly embrace the process!

The nicest people sometimes suffer the worst dating luck. Perhaps their partner has left them or they find themselves widowed. When you have gone through this and start dating again, it can be far from a smooth ride, at least to begin with.

That is why it is so good that the experienced and talented matchmakers at Drawing Down the Moon are able to step in and provide ongoing date coaching, support and mentoring throughout the matchmaking experience. Our clients find comfort that no matter their background or relationship history their matchmaker looks after them and has their best interests at heart.

My favourite stories are those where some regular person who has been plugging away at dating for some time with cheerful optimism despite the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune, goes on to meet their lifelong partner through us.

Kate O'Connell
Kate O’Connell
Date Coach

What is important to you about your job?
After more than 20 years of working at DDM, being able to share my understanding and insights into the world of dating and relationships. Helping someone to identify any unhelpful patterns from the past and to release any limiting beliefs or hidden barriers to finding the right partner.

What makes a good relationship?
1. Kindness, compassion and the ability to listen and communicate. 2. Connection on an emotional, physical and intellectual level. 3. Mutual respect, equal rights and responsibilities. 4. Acceptance of one another’s limitations and relinquishing the need to change each other. 5. Shared values and wanting the same things out of life. 6. An ability to make one another’s lives bigger. 7. Fun!

What do you think Love is?
Love is being truly seen, valued, understood and accepted by another. It is sharing a deep and profound connection and feeling that you can be yourself completely.

What is your most memorable moment at Drawing Down the Moon?
When I was a senior consultant, the first time I heard that a baby had been born to a couple I had matched up.