Meet our team of top matchmakers

Matchmaker Gillian McCallum Drawing Down the Moon Matchmaking London

Gillian McCallum
CEO

What do you like most about working at Drawing Down the Moon?
The Team! I first heard about Drawing Down the Moon as a teenager, after seeing their adverts in Private Eye. I was thrilled to become the CEO of Drawing Down the Moon in early 2016. It is a huge privilege for me to be a part of this exciting company, and to be so warmly welcomed by DDM’s incredibly friendly team of award winning matchmakers.

What is your favourite matchmaking success story?
A good friend had found it tough to find a partner in London. She chose Drawing Down the Moon through recommendation, and on only her second date met “The One”! Update from there – she is happily married and has moved to the States with her now husband.

What is the one thing you would suggest, as a Matchmaker, to help people find Love?
The fewer limitations you place on the type of person you would like to meet, the higher your chance of success. Be open!

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Mary Balfour
Non Exec Director

“My passion is to help love blossom by helping busy, single professionals find their ultimate soul mate. I’ve been doing this for over 30 years with Drawing Down the Moon, my date coaching and as the author of Smart Dating.

My other passion is education and I worked as the head of an inner city, adult education centre in the 70s and 80s. My brief there was to motivate and support those who’d missed out on educational opportunities and help them to realise their aspirations in life. A lot of what I learned there has been helpful with my work as a matchmaker. So too has my training in life coaching and counselling techniques.

I’ve been lucky in love and happily married for thirty years to my wonderful husband, Sebastian. I hope that I can help others to know the happiness we’ve experienced together.
My mission is simple: to help you find and keep that ultimate loving relationship. I want to leave you feeling amazed and utterly delighted by your experience with Drawing Down the Moon. ‘For more about Mary click here‘”

Lizzee-Fearnley
Lizzee Fearnley
Matchmaking Team Leader

What do you like most about working at Drawing Down the Moon?
For many people, finding their perfect match can bring the greatest of happiness. Working at Drawing Down the Moon as a matchmaker allows me to play a key part in helping people create the right opportunities to meet that special someone.

What is your favourite matchmaking success story?
One of the things I always encourage my clients to do is be as open as they can to what their ideal match will look like. One of my happiest client successes was a lady who found her perfect match in a man who was 1 inch shorter than her ideal height. Karen met her future husband through us, and called to tell me that my encouragement to meet him changed her life.

What is the one thing you would suggest, as a Matchmaker, to help people find Love?
My advice to those looking for love is to join a matchmaker! But, importantly, focus on building a wide network of interesting friendships and be open to allowing something deeper to blossom. These are the seeds from which the strongest relationships will grow.

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Abi Jude
Senior Matchmaker & Date Coach

What do you like most about working at Drawing Down the Moon?
I really love meeting and working with the clients. It is the most interesting and lovely part of my job. It can also be challenging! I enjoy developing a relationship with my clients and then finding them the right person to have a relationship with, with our help.

What is your favourite matchmaking success story?
Although one of my clients is attractive, intelligent, wanted a long term relationship and children, he had found it hard to meet people. I had not heard from him for a little while, so I called him only to find out he was proposing to the lovely girl we had introduced him to that weekend. They are due to get married shortly.

What is the one thing you would suggest, as a Matchmaker, to help people find Love?
The Drawing Down the Moon experience works best for people who are open to trusting us and our expertise. If you are positive and proactive it will serve you well. It’s very important to remember that this is a journey, so not every match is going to be the right one.

Abi was awarded Finalist – “Best Date Coach 2017” at the International iDate Dating Awards in Miami

Andrea Messent
Andrea Messent
Senior Matchmaker

What do you like most about working at Drawing Down the Moon?
The matchmaking! I never get Sunday blues because I’m always excited to come into work on a Monday and find out how everyones’ dates went over the weekend.

What is your favourite matchmaking success story?
Persuading someone to meet a client who she initially did not want to meet because she thought he was too short-and finding out that they are wonderfully in love and it’s the happiest she’s been in a relationship.

What is the one thing you would suggest, as a Matchmaker, to help people find Love?
Try to take the advice of your matchmaker and be as open minded as possible – the perfect person for you is often someone completely different to your previous relationships.

Andrea was awarded “Best Matchmaker 2017” at the International iDate Dating Awards in Miami

Kirsten Donaldson
Kirsten Donaldson
Matchmaker

What do you like most about working at Drawing Down the Moon?
I feel very lucky to have found something that I love, and I get to work alongside amazing people who feel as privileged as I do to be a matchmaker. Matchmaking is a passion; the extraordinary people we meet on a daily basis, their stories and the outcomes we create together are fascinating and life affirming.

What is your favourite matchmaking success story?
I met with a man who was convinced he would never find love. But the he joined us, met his match and they are now blissfully happy. It just goes to show you never know when it is going to happen or who the perfect match is going to be.

What is the one thing you would suggest, as a Matchmaker, to help people find Love?
So many people make the mistake of going on a first date and expecting the Earth to move. A lasting relationship is based on friendship. If it is a “maybe,” go on that second date!

Terry Smith
Terry Smith
Client Care

What do you like most about working at Drawing Down The Moon?
I hugely enjoy talking to the diverse and interesting people who make a new enquiry with Drawing Down The Moon. It has always been satisfying to answer their questions and make them feel relaxed and welcome.

What is your favourite matchmaking success story?
A woman contacted me and explained that she had been online dating for more than 3 years without success. She regretted the time, emotional energy and costs involved. I explained how we worked more effectively and encouraged her to come in for a chat with one of our consultants.
She agreed hesitantly. How lovely it was to hear some months later that we had found her a really wonderful guy.

What is the one thing you would suggest, as a Matchmaker, to help people find Love?
Set aside your checklist and be open to new people.

Dee Harkin
Dee Harkin
Client Care

What do you like most about working at DDM?
It’s wonderful to be entrusted with peoples life stories as they unravel them to me, so very often the story is one of dedication to work taking precidence over social time out, where perhaps they might have met the right person to spend their life with, or perhaps they are a bit older and might have lost a wonderful partner and are full of trepidation about starting again, when they haven’t dated for ages. I feel it is a privilege to be told personal stories and exciting when I know there is an insirational and caring team in Drawing Down the Moon on hand, to go that extra mile to find them what they are looking for.

What is your favourite matchmaking story?
Loss of confidence in the love side of people’s lives is surprisingly common for highly successful career people, it’s great to hear people’s relief when they hear that experienced advice is available. My favourite stories are about these people when we’ve supported them from our initial phone call through to a happy relationship.

What is the one thing you’d suggest to help people find love?
Trust is an essential part of working with us and also in how you will move forward to form a relationship.

Kate O'Connell
Kate O’Connell
Date Coach

What is important to you about your job?
After more than 20 years of working at DDM, being able to share my understanding and insights into the world of dating and relationships. Helping someone to identify any unhelpful patterns from the past and to release any limiting beliefs or hidden barriers to finding the right partner.

What makes a good relationship?
1. Kindness, compassion and the ability to listen and communicate. 2. Connection on an emotional, physical and intellectual level. 3. Mutual respect, equal rights and responsibilities. 4. Acceptance of one another’s limitations and relinquishing the need to change each other. 5. Shared values and wanting the same things out of life. 6. An ability to make one another’s lives bigger. 7. Fun!

What do you think Love is?
Love is being truly seen, valued, understood and accepted by another. It is sharing a deep and profound connection and feeling that you can be yourself completely.

What is your most memorable moment at Drawing Down the Moon?
When I was a senior consultant, the first time I heard that a baby had been born to a couple I had matched up.

Andy Maccabe
Andy MacCabe
Technology

Sometimes people find love with the first person they are matched with and write in to say how we must be matchmaking geniuses. We take that as a huge compliment, but most often, successful matches happen quickly when people are open on the type of person they would like to meet and wholeheartedly embrace the process!

The nicest people sometimes suffer the worst dating luck. Perhaps their partner has left them or they find themselves widowed. When you have gone through this and start dating again, it can be far from a smooth ride, at least to begin with.

That is why it is so good that the experienced and talented matchmakers at Drawing Down the Moon are able to step in and provide ongoing date coaching, support and mentoring throughout the matchmaking experience. Our clients find comfort that no matter their background or relationship history their matchmaker looks after them and has their best interests at heart.

My favourite stories are those where some regular person who has been plugging away at dating for some time with cheerful optimism despite the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune, goes on to meet their lifelong partner through us.

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Lizzie Frith
Matchmaker & Client Care

What do you like most about working at Drawing Down the Moon?
That sense of satisfaction when a new client walks in the door and you just know that they would be a perfect match for one of your members.

What is your favourite matchmaking success story?
A member was really unsure about someone we wanted to match her with as she felt he didn’t quite match her criteria. After a little gentle cajoling they did meet. The end of the story? Reader, she married him.

What is the one thing you would suggest, as a Matchmaker, to help people find Love?
Use a matchmaker! Failing that, keep your social circle as wide as possible. You never know, that friend of a friend might just be the one!