The first step to finding a fulfilling relationship? Be A Happy Singleton.
Being in a relationship won’t make you into an amazing human being filled with interesting hobbies and knowledge.
That’s all up to you as an individual.
Being single can be challenging. The world seems to place such an emphasis on finding love and becoming part of a couple, and yes, that is a goal for many of us, but there are multiple benefits to being single. If you find yourself unexpectedly single – don’t panic! You don’t have to immediately find someone new – take a breath. Be happy to have been given this special opportunity to get to know yourself. Take stock of where you are in your life and where you want to be.
Take your time
Are you in a relationship now? Are you happy? Take a moment to assess how it makes you feel. Here’s a familiar thought – ‘If I leave, all the effort and time I’ve put into this relationship will have been wasted.’ NO. NOT TRUE. It’s never a waste. You’ve learned about yourself and your expectations and ok, so it didn’t work out exactly as planned but take the good and leave the rest behind.
Do NOT rush desperately into a toxic relationship! You don’t need to fall for the first person who smiles at you and then stay because you’re afraid of being single.
Give yourself a chance
Being happy alone does not happen overnight especially if you’ve just come out of a relationship. There will be times that you feel like you’re invisible. No one will ever love you, you’re wasting your life, and a whole lot of other negative feelings. Cheer yourself up. Spend some quality time alone. Talk to friends. Enjoy a spa treatment (or two). The better you get at being alone, the better you will be at being in a relationship. Make the effort to cook for yourself. Seriously, this is one of the most self loving things you can do for yourself. Cook yourself something new each week. You deserve it!
Study something new. Figure out what you are passionate about and go for it. There is no one to hold you back but yourself.
Meet new people. Not necessarily for romantic reasons, just to expand your support community. Do you make an effort to say hello and meet new people? This isn’t about finding love. It’s about developing friendships, expanding your horizons and learning about the people around you.
Exercise. Singledom is the perfect time to get yourself in shape and the endorphins released when you work out will keep your spirits high. Something as simple as walking the dog will get you out, get you moving and help to give shape and focus to your day. Why not take up a team sport? You’ll be meeting new people and getting in shape at the same time.
I’ve been single for a while and I have to say it’s going very well. Like…. it’s working out. I think I’m the one.
A new chapter
When you’re ready, and this will happen gradually, you can start to explore meeting potential new loves. Join a dating agency, get friends to introduce you to other interesting singles. Chat up the cute girl in the bookshop. Ask the charismatic man in the coffee shop queue for his number. You can do this. You can go from being a fulfilled happy singleton to a perfect half of the perfect couple.
If you are ready to meet someone special, contact the friendly award winning matchmakers at Drawing Down the Moon Matchmaking. Check us out on social media.
